10 TIPS ON HOW TO MAKE A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP WORK!!

A lot of people these days experience a long distance relationship at some point in their life. Most of us have failed to maintain one and believe that others will suffer the same fate. Why is that so? The reason being is that we start the relationship as if it was like any other and then we come into problems. But what are the common reasons to break up in those long distance relationships and how can you make them work? Below are 10 tips that could make your relationship work.

1. Be honest right from the beginning and ask all the questions to make sure you are both clear on the situation of the relationship. Setting some guide lines such as naming your relationship (dating, seeing each other, boyfriend-girlfriend, engaged sex buddy etc ) as well as letting each other know how exclusive it is (limited to one person,) or non-exclusive. These can be difficult and awkward questions to ask, but will save you great heartache and misunderstanding down the line.

2. Communicate in some way as much as possible. Since you won’t be seeing each other, it’s important to establish and maintain an emotional connection. These don’t always have to be long, in-depth conversations. Quick ‘how are you doing’ or ‘i miss you messages’ create bonds. Tell each other about your little triumphs and tragedies. Ask for advice. Use an instant messenger program on your phones or use web cams for that visual connection. E-mail is great so make sure you use it when you can. Write love letters. Send each other small gifts, cards, for no reason. In this case, quantity is as important as quality. Don’t take communication for granted!

3.Being fare away from your boo can be a bit of an experience but take advantage of the benefits a long distance relationship offers. You’ll have more time with friends and/or family, no arguments over toothpaste caps and the best bit is the pleasure of seeing your sweetheart again. Also most important, being far apart gives you a chance to maintain your individuality and you can progress at studying or on a new job or business, something that can get lost in the mist when couples spend all their free time together.

4.Talk about your future together. Doesn’t have to be marriage, but you can talk about going on holiday, going into business, see yourself with each other doing things inspiring in the future that makes you want to see it one day. Discussing how you’re going to get to that point will help you prove to each other that the relationship is going somewhere and that your efforts and frustrations are not in vain.

5. Pursue common interests, even if it means pursuing them apart. If there’s a film in the cinema you’re both interested in seeing, watch it individually and then call each other afterwards and talk about it. Read a certain book, magazines or online videos at the same time. Set your watches to go off at the same time every day, Stare at the moon whilst your on the phone and if its dark where your partner is get them to look at the moon too. It may sound cheesy but both of you looking at the moon at the same time will connect you. Another is to synchronize your alarm with that of your partner. Make it a point to think of each other when your watch or mobile goes off and revel in the fact that he or she is thinking about you, too.

6. You must try and avoid jealousy and be trusting. One of the easiest ways to destroy a healthy relationship is to mess it up with jealousy. When you start a long distance relationship, you must be realistic of the difficulties ahead. It always helps if you go into a relationship with the idea that everyone is innocent and worthy of trust, until proven otherwise. Don’t fall in the trap of questioning and interrogating your partner every time he decides to go out for a drink with people you haven’t met or doesn’t get back to you right away when you called and left a message. You must remember your partner will naturally have a social life where he lives and so should you. Of course it helps to have your eyes open and not be totally naive, but being overly suspicious is unhealthy for you and your relationship too.

7. Be there for each other. Remember that you’re still in a relationship. If your partner is ever in trouble, hurt, or whatever, try and be there for them with the same care and attention as a normal relationship. Make sure you are available to them so that they can reach you if they need you. A chat can solve many things and If they end up dealing with everything alone, they will eventually not need you.

8. This is important if you want the relationship to go past the first hurdle. Never lose faith. People will tell you that long distance relationships never work. Don’t listen! Watch out, you will meet a lot of negative views on this. People will tell you that long distance relationships never work, especially those who have had bad experiences about it. Don’t listen to them. Its your choice and your decision.

9.The secret to a great long-distance relationship is great sex. Well i mean great cyber sex. Some people think that long distance relationships don’t work because people have “needs.” Who doesn’t? Its not like the old days when our parents didn’t have much to play with. Nowadays you have all kinds of technology available to you, and you can have a pretty decent sex life with someone, even if you live halfway around the world. A relationship can’t thrive forever on long-distance sex, but it can go a long way in between real visits. But probably the hardest part sometimes is starting it. It can feel a little intimidating, but it is very rewarding once you both get into it. Sometimes long-distance sex is even more awesome because you take risks and let yourself go, in a way that you might not when you are together face-to-face. Phone sex, Skype Sex, webcam talking dirty face to face on the computer can be a lot of fun . Use your imagination to turn your partner (and yourself) on. But if your going to send explicit content down the web I would recommend keeping your face out of any videos or photos because you never know these days. Even if it’s anonymous on-line, all it takes is for one mistake and that you’ve gone viral.

10.Avoid the temptation to be controlling. People have free will and no one can or should control another person. As long as you are both interested in being in the relationship, you will stick with it and distance will not make a difference. As soon as one of you decides the other is not a good match—or someone else is a better match—your relationship ends, whether you live 3000 miles apart or two streets apart. For this to work you are going to have to trust each other completely.

Are you in a long distance relationship, do these tips help, do you have any other tips to share?