Betrayal hurts. Weeks or months of happiness mixed in with the good and bad aspects that follow any relationship, to only be trumped by a painful alarm telling you that your perfect man is a imposter.
You don’t need me to tell you this, but there’s nothing enjoyable about wasting your time with a no good man.The inevitable is impossible to avoid without. Who wants to sit on guard and always expecting the unexpected? That’s what bitterness is made of it makes you paranoid. It only makes things worse with distrust that come from assuming everyone you meet is merely seconds away from hurting you.
So what do you do?
A warning shot would be nice, or perhaps we could pay better attention to any warning signs that were waved in our face beforehand. But if that doesn’t work…
You can always consider calling, texting or even meetng up with the Ex. What! I hear you cry. you cant do that, well a few girls would.. well at least hear the advantages and disadvantages.
I wonder if Javine wishes she had done a lunch with Alisha to get the low down on Harvey. Is there something you wish you knew about your former or current boyfriend that his ex could’ve told you? Something that would have changed where you’re at now?
Maybe the answers to all of your questions lie with the woman who was there before you. History repeats itself time and time again. Although people have the ability to change, most often we imitate ourselves repeatedly when there’s someone new around who isn’t aware of who we are.
Your man might practice the same tricks, use the same lies, and take you on the same dates he took everyone else on before you. Having an “innocent” conversation with your man’s last girlfriend is probably a sure-fire way to learn what’s to be expected later on down the road.
She knows all his tactics, his routines, his potential lies, the scapegoats he uses, and his recipe for showing love. She knows him inside and out, and if she’s willing to drop a few tips in your lap, is it wrong to be all ears, or should you be ashamed for even participating in a conversation with your man’s ex?
Well lets see
Some would say its nothing more than doing your homework – a simple check, quite like an employer would do before offering you a position. It’s not much more different than copping a background check on him from the government, creeping on his Facebook page, Googling his name…or driving by his house at night to see what he does when you’re not around.
Whereas most people will argue that consulting his past is an invasion of trust. All options come from the same field of distrust that bad relationships are built, although what makes it a scandalous pursuit is that you’re hunting dirt or his past wont bring you have anything positive if you are looking for something negative.
its like looking for the truth from the mouth of a liar. The ex girl that you go to has the option to keep it real, but there’s nothing stopping her from faking that smile or laugh and sending you down the wrong path either out of jealousy of you being the new girl. Her motives for helping may coincide with a hidden plan to reclaim her spot in the long run.
You can’t ever be sure that anything she says can be seen as credible information. You’d do better waiting it out or trusting that there will be a line of error in every relationship. But looking for the worse is likely what brings the worst out of everything so my thing to you is don’t do it.